Do you need to hear that today? I know I could use the reminder myself!
As a Spiritual Medium & Teacher, this comes up a lot in my classes. If you believe as I do, you understand that you planned the big events in this lifetime. That ex-husband, that brilliant career move, that big mistake, yes, they were all planned. Why? I'm so glad you asked! You wanted to learn the lessons associated with these big life moves and possibly to clear some karma as well from a past life.
Whew. Mind tired yet? It's a lot to take in, I know, but it's true. If you do believe in preplanning, you understand that one of God's greatest gifts to us is our own will. Yes, our free will trumps it all. You can have preplanned a huge incident, good or bad, into your life but you can still decide right now not to learn that lesson, not to open that door and grow.
Best case scenario would be to look at your circumstance in gratefulness. I don't say that lightly. My path has not been all rainbows and sunshine but, when I looked at it in truthfulness, I see where my path has grown me up. I would not be the person I am today had I not lived the life I had chosen.
There have been some big lessons! I have known great joy but I have also known great sorrow. One of the biggest lessons I have learned is that I am perfectly where I was meant to be today. Yes, today. I cannot get this journey wrong because it is not possible to mess it up. No matter how big a mistake I have made, I have all the time I need to learn the lesson - lifetimes, in fact! That takes a great deal of pressure off of me. How about you? How would your life change if you KNEW you could not get this wrong?
Dream big, friend! Take that risk! Try that new skill out. Open yourself up to that new relationship. You CANNOT get this wrong!